I was so taken with NLP when I first came across it because it was clearly a powerful framework for creating rapid change.
I recognised this wasn’t just positive thinking or some tool or process, but a way of enquiry into the truth. The more of the truth I saw, the more beautiful and compelling it became.
The 7 Steps for a Transformational Coaching Conversation, in a way recognises and works with the vulnerability in all of us, to create lasting and powerful change:
1, We acknowledge there is learning or change to experience for us – to be all we can be.
2, We look at the barriers to achieving what we want (our present state).
3, We unpack that present state. This is about going deeper into how we are creating our current situation (be that being stuck, depressed, confused, unmotivated, unsure, unhappy etc).
4, By unpacking the structure of our present state (beliefs, internal strategies etc) we can become aware of, and acknowledge that where we are is a) not where we want to be and b) not fixed c) a part of the natural journey of maturation and learning. Like a child learning to walk, we all need to fall over to learn to do it properly.
5, If it’s not where we want to be or fixed, that begs the question, what do we want instead?
6, When someone answers this question, the frame of the conversation has shifted from ‘present state’ to ‘desired state’. From what we don’t want – to what we do.
7, And this is where as a skilled coach we create the space for, and offer feedback to the person to shift state; where they know (this is a belief change!) they can do whatever they want and have the strategies to achieve it.
If you would like to know more about these kinds of Transformational Coaching Conversations, or to have your own, send me an email here.
Love Tristan x