Entries by Tristan Soames

Everything is an iteration

I launched my coaching business about a decade ago. At first I knew nothing about the business of coaching.  Then I knew a little more. And then I put my toe in the water and found out that I really could make a difference.  But the business of coaching is so different to the world of coaching. I tried marketing and selling and fell flat […]

You can’t escape your destiny

You can’t escape your destiny. And you can’t ignore your calling…. Not for long anyway! Long ago, I remember reading a book that (over) simplified life. It made sense, but as with many theories, they are often somewhat different from our lived experience. The theory was essentially this.  Whatever happens in life we have two […]

The Unexpected Gifts of Depression

Having suffered from depression, I’ve come to recognise the many unexpected gifts of this paralysing label. Experiencing depression, hopelessness or being stuck gives us a choice, unconscious though it is for most. We can subscribe to the label and the idea that we don’t play a part in this very real and debilitating diagnosis; in […]

Life is full of paradox!

Forest Gump said that “life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re going to get.” And boy, was he right! For much of my formative years I battled with myself and life. I had an insatiable need to know, to have a sense of understanding and control. While we can create […]

Problem = Opportunity = Growth

Every time I land in Goa to run an NLP retreat, I’m hit with a wave of colour, heat and breathtaking natural beauty – the jungle, the beaches and wildlife – I love it! This time however, I was hit with a horrible bout of food poisoning within 24 hours of landing. Not so good […]

To Be Free: Finding emotional freedom through NLP

When Sue, my mentor, said many years ago “Tristan, you have a great deal of freedom in your life” I understood what she meant but it didn’t really resonate with me. It made sense, but it wasn’t true for me. Shortly before this, I had been running a successful business turning over £100,000 a month. […]

Is sales the fastest way of changing lives?

I’ve had what I can only describe as a lifelong resistance to sales and marketing.  Like many of you reading this, I run my own business.  So if you’re anything like me, how do we bridge the gap between selling and marketing, and our fundamental dislike of it? Over time, I’ve noticed that when I […]

The problem of good

  Barely a week goes by without opening my BBC News app and reading of another mass killing or terrorist attack. I suspect many others are the same in their despondency and sense of hopelessness with the darkness we are confronted with. Berlin, Nice, Syria… where will it end?  Or perhaps it won’t? I know I’m not […]