I launched my coaching business about a decade ago. At first I knew nothing about the business of coaching. Then I knew a little more. And then I put my toe in the water and found out that I really could make a difference. But the business of coaching is so different to the world of coaching. I tried marketing and selling and fell flat […]
About Tristan Soames
I am a coach, a facilitator and NLP Master Trainer. I am someone who helps people figure things out for themselves.
My personal journey has largely informed my work. I have had many personal challenges and I have managed to turn my life around, some might say against the odds. That has now become my life’s work; to help other people resolve their personal challenges so that they can create the life they want.
I had an unstable childhood, with a very violent father who was in and out of prison. At the age of seven I was sent to live with my grandparents, who were both Colonels in the army. I was suddenly thrown into an emotionally cold and strict military environment. I have since moved beyond the dysfunctions of my childhood, depression and low self-esteem and ended up running a number of successful businesses.
In some respects, I’ve been there, done that and got the t-shirt. I have been homeless, beaten and broke, but ultimately I’ve grown richer for all these challenging experiences and I now love what I do – I get to help others turn their lives around which is hugely rewarding to see and be a part of. I continue to learn, grow and heal and I commit to supporting others to do the same.
Entries by Tristan Soames
You can’t escape your destiny. And you can’t ignore your calling…. Not for long anyway! Long ago, I remember reading a book that (over) simplified life. It made sense, but as with many theories, they are often somewhat different from our lived experience. The theory was essentially this. Whatever happens in life we have two […]
There’s so much to share since my last update… where to start?! I had an outpouring of love and support from my last newsletter which triggered a couple of responses. First, a big thank you to all of you who got in touch with words of support. It was actually quite overwhelming, but lovely to know that my blog on […]
I was so taken with NLP when I first came across it because it was clearly a powerful framework for creating rapid change. I recognised this wasn’t just positive thinking or some tool or process, but a way of enquiry into the truth. The more of the truth I saw, the more beautiful and compelling […]
Having suffered from depression, I’ve come to recognise the many unexpected gifts of this paralysing label. Experiencing depression, hopelessness or being stuck gives us a choice, unconscious though it is for most. We can subscribe to the label and the idea that we don’t play a part in this very real and debilitating diagnosis; in […]
Forest Gump said that “life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re going to get.” And boy, was he right! For much of my formative years I battled with myself and life. I had an insatiable need to know, to have a sense of understanding and control. While we can create […]
Every time I land in Goa to run an NLP retreat, I’m hit with a wave of colour, heat and breathtaking natural beauty – the jungle, the beaches and wildlife – I love it! This time however, I was hit with a horrible bout of food poisoning within 24 hours of landing. Not so good […]
When Sue, my mentor, said many years ago “Tristan, you have a great deal of freedom in your life” I understood what she meant but it didn’t really resonate with me. It made sense, but it wasn’t true for me. Shortly before this, I had been running a successful business turning over £100,000 a month. […]
I’ve had what I can only describe as a lifelong resistance to sales and marketing. Like many of you reading this, I run my own business. So if you’re anything like me, how do we bridge the gap between selling and marketing, and our fundamental dislike of it? Over time, I’ve noticed that when I […]
Barely a week goes by without opening my BBC News app and reading of another mass killing or terrorist attack. I suspect many others are the same in their despondency and sense of hopelessness with the darkness we are confronted with. Berlin, Nice, Syria… where will it end? Or perhaps it won’t? I know I’m not […]