As a Wife, Mum, the Founder of a small not-for-profit and serving on the Board of two other non-profit organisations, I felt stuck in a place of lack. I didn’t realise that I was serving others but not myself, and feeling drained and overwhelmed by the responsibilities around me. Then I met Tristan.
When we first met up Tristan helped me to discover for myself what I needed to do to move forward in my purpose, what to prioritise, and how to have an “embodied knowing” that the resources I needed would come to me once I had identified them clearly. In this one session I felt so safe to express my own metaphors for my feelings and beliefs without feeling silly or judged, and gained insights into what my long term purpose would be (helping people to connect to their higher selves). As a result of this session I was able to identify suitable Trustees, the resources for a web site, a business partner and further funding for my work at that time. Tristan also fed back to me my special gift, which is using metaphor to heal.
As Founder and Trainer for “Life And Money Skills” helping parents and individuals find the motivation to increase their financial and personal wellbeing, I had witnessed the surprising effectiveness of my own fun, colourful life changing techniques I had intuitively created, but I didn’t know why they worked. I wanted a more scientific answer, both for me and potential funders, so I chose to attend Tristan’s NLP Practitioner course.
Tristan’s approach to teaching was very practical, hands-on and relaxed, ideal for my non-academic learning style .With appropriate support, we co-learners found ourselves coaching one another straight away, beginning to let go of issues that may have been with us for a lifetime, and to manifest what we really desired for ourselves. We also witnessed amazing breakthroughs for delegates as Tristan demonstrated the power of NLP to heal real deep seated challenges. The calibre of my co-learners was outstanding – just amazing, caring, loving people who all wanted to make the world a better place and were willing to work on themselves in order to do so. Through Tristan’s facilitation, we soon became close friends and supporters of one another. My fellow learners became teachers too as I mixed with, modelled, coached and learned more about these beautiful people – their beliefs, the way they cared for themselves as well as others, and how some of them had learned to remain so calm, peaceful and non-judgemental during challenging times. I also discovered a lot about myself through the process and through their feedback.
I realised that I could use these techniques to serve my organisation’s clients and wanted to pass these skills onto my co-trainers, so I continued with the Master Practitioner and the “Train the Trainer” courses. This enabled me to absorb even more knowledge and skills and practise what I already knew. At the same time I began to practise on friends, family and colleagues to help them remove blocks and move towards what they really wanted. Using NLP to further empower my own techniques, it seemed like I was helping them to create magic in their lives. Home improvements, house moving, and improved relationships both at home and at work were just some of the outcomes that people manifested, when before each individual’s coaching session there was just a sense of hopelessness. I was particularly delighted to be able to coach my son to become confident in public speaking and my sister to attract clients for her new “virtual business support” service, an enterprise she began following recovery from a long term illness.
For myself, I am learning to accept who I am while supporting myself to become even better, to feel abundant every day and to feel calm on a daily basis. My confidence and openness to new ideas has increased, and helped me to be open to the many “teachers” and “guides” who have come into my life to help me on my journey.I realise my skills are valuable and commercial and can spread beyond my charitable activities.I am delighted I am able to train others to use these amazing skills both on themselves and to support others, and am open to the right opportunity to do begin this work.
In order to share some of the NLP skills I have learned in an accessible format, I have created a metaphorical story about a young dolphin who learns to support and love herself and by doing so changes the world around her for the better. This is an easy to use tool for parents to help their children love and support themselves, and create resilience in the face of challenges and difficulties both in childhood and in adult life. You can download “Daphne and the Smiley Shells” from Amazon or ITunes as a narrated short story, and I intend to turn it into a Course and a small book for children and adults to keep as a reminder of how to support themselves .
I am so grateful to Tristan, Victoria, his “Client Happiness Manager” and all the wonderful people I met during my learning with all that I have gained from them. I look forward to continuing my life-long learning using NLP and sharing it with others through training, coaching, metaphor and storytelling!
Founder of “Life And Money Skills” and Author of “Daphne and the Smiley Shells”